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There's been plenty written about the Power of Human Touchand its ability toamong other things, decrease stress, increase relaxation, and lower blood pressure and heart rate. Hugs slow your pulse, calm your nervous systemand make everything feel slightly less apocalyptic.
That's the concept of the professional cuddling company Snuggle Buddies. At first glance, it's strange to think about paying for human touch —then you remember all the terrible things our daily lives are doing to our minds and bodies. As year-old 18 year old looking for cuddle buddy Buddies employee Lisa VanArsdale explains it, "In a world where budddy sell their souls to offices and you stare at a screen all day, there's going to be a desire for tangible experiences.
She has big, hopeful eyes that are just dying to see the best in you, and a raspy, almost child-like voice. She's curvy, too, her petite torso bearing the kind of bosom you could really nestle your head into—if that sort of thing were permitted. Professional cuddling is not meant to be sexual.Horny Women In Henrico, NC
It's a point VanArsdale can't emphasize enough, though she seems aware of the fact that clients may not fully cuddls, even when respecting the rules. There's no kissing—even on the forehead—unless it's in greeting.
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Most slip-ups occur during pre-session communication. VanArsdale hasn't personally dealt with any crossing of the line, except from actor Taye Diggs —but that wasn't technically Sweet wives want sex Rockville company-sanctioned cuddle session, and she'd rather not get into all of it again, thank you very much.
Though, it should be said, he's far from alone when it comes to playing dumb about the rules of pro-snuggle engagement. For the most part, the men who come to see VanArsdale just want to hold her or be held.
Strip clubs and prostitutes offer the fulfillment of cudde promiscuous desires, anyway. Professional cuddling may be female contact without the potential for shameful stigma, but it's easier to understand through a basic need for physical contact.
When VanArsdale budvy one of her earliest clients why he'd enlisted her services, he said simply, "I Lady looking real sex Hallettsville a body lying next to me non-committally. This particular client was a member of the male orsomething, divorced-or-should-be demographic that VanArsdale typically sees, and it makes up about half of the approximately clients she's cuddled since she conducted her first session on Super Bowl Sunday last year.
Her business all started with 118 "ways to make extra money" and discovering a Penny Hoarder article that suggested cuddling as a possibility.
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During the day, VanArsdale is a nanny, and she's discovered that caring for someone else's kid is not totally unlike cuddling a grown man. Both are surrogate roles, which sprout from not having the time to normally fulfill them: Parents would pick up their children at school if they weren't so bogged 18 year old looking for cuddle buddy with work, and middle-age men would be able to engage in the exhausting process of courting another human being into the level of cudle required to share in their warm embrace.
A crippling fear of rejection is another factor, which is explicitly felt for the men— about a quarter of her clients, specifically—who use VanArsdale's services as a way to bridge the cultural divide.
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That they are less likely to budsy into the heteronormative masculine ideal is just one part of a far bigger obstacle.
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One of VanArsdale's more recent clients is a Hasidic Jew who broke from his religious community in order to explore his sexuality.
He told her he thinks he may be gay, but mostly he needs to be touched by someone— anyone —to ease himself into being comfortable with any human contact at all.
Some of the men VanArsdale 18 year old looking for cuddle buddy have medical issues that make touch especially helpful. There was the year-old with narcolepsy, a something guy on the autism spectrum, opd a wheelchair-bound man with muscular dystrophy who asked VanArsdale to sit on his lap because he had "never been able to get a full hug.
VanArsdale's background amounts to "loving to cuddle a lot in college," but she takes it seriously.
Over the course of lookig discussion, she often espouses the cuddler's version of Patch Adams's philosophy of bi-directional care she volunteered with him in Russia once, by the way, and he was very interested in her work.
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The Power of Human Touch is real. VanArsdale, set to cuddle. Photo by Lauren Duca.
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